Reading Materials for Grief
After a loss, some people find comfort and understanding through reading. Books can help put words to experiences that feel confusing, overwhelming, or isolating—especially when emotions are difficult to express out loud.
The reading materials listed here are offered as optional resources. There is no right time—or requirement—to read after a loss. Take what feels helpful, when it feels right.
A Gentle Note About Reading During Grief
Grief affects concentration, memory, and energy. You may find that:
Reading feels comforting one day and impossible the next
Short passages are easier than long chapters
Certain topics feel helpful now, while others may be better later
All of this is normal. Some people find reading helpful after a loss. Others do not. Both repsonses are valid.
Recommended Reading
The following books are widely recognized for their compassionate, accessible approach to grief and loss. They are not intended to replace professional support, but to offer understanding and reassurance.
Articles
These thoughtful articles provide guidance and direction for anyone touched by grief.
General Grief and Loss
On Grief and Grieving — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross & David Kessler
Healing After Loss — Martha Whitmore Hickman
It’s OK That You’re Not OK — Megan Devine
Sudden or Traumatic Loss
Trauma and Recovery — Judith Herman
The Grieving Brain — Mary-Frances O’Connor
Grief for Children and Teens
When Someone Very Special Dies — Marge Heegaard
Tear Soup — Pat Schwiebert & Chuck DeKlyen
For Supporters and Helpers
Some people reading this page may be supporting someone else who is grieving. Reading can help helpers better understand what grief may look like and how to offer support with compassion and patience.
The Grief and Others - Leah Hager Cohen
If Reading Feels Like Too Much
If reading doesn’t feel helpful right now, that’s okay. Many people find support through:
Talking with a trusted person
Spending quiet time alone
Using the printable guides on this site
Seeking professional or community support when ready
You are not expected to process grief in any particular way.
A Final Word
Grief is not something to “get through” quickly or fix. It is a human response to loss, and it unfolds differently for everyone.
Take care of yourself in the ways that feel most supportive to you.
You may also find helpful guidance in our Extended Reading List, Printable Guides and Online Resources.